Relationship Therapy

Whether you are dating, newlyweds, living common-law or are celebrating your 50th anniversary, relationship counselling can help both of you take care of your investment in each other and learn skills and tools to help keep your relationship passionate, joyful and strong.

You may be able to relate to the following if your relationship is struggling:

• Conflicts go nowhere, they just keep going around and around the same issue with no changes
• You feel a lack of intimacy and closeness with your partner
• You feel misunderstood, frustrated, unappreciated or like your partner doesn’t care about you
• You feel a sense of loneliness or distance around your partner
• The term “room-mates” has crossed your mind when defining your relationship
• Time to connect doesn’t happen
• You seem to live separate lives

My approach with couples is based on the world-renowned work of Dr. John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute. Dr. Gottman’s scientific, non-traditional and positive ‘nuts and bolts’ approach to working with couples ensures you are provided with tools that get results. The focus won't be on what is wrong, how things got to be the way they are, or who is at fault. I believe truly helpful relationship therapy stems from teaching couples to talk TO each other rather than ABOUT each other to help you address your issues in a healthy manner. I will help you both learn how to replace what is happening with something better.

I would love to help you:

• Learn new ways to solve or dialogue about issues you face
• Build passion and love back into your relationship
• Identify and respond to a bid for connection
• Stop the four best predictors of divorce: Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
• Develop and Create shared values and meanings
• Resolve the physiolocal flooding and anxious feelings that accompany many relationships
• Understand how your personality styles affect your relationship and use simple negotiation techniques to incorporate them
• Learn how to apologize and mean it
• Address the stages of forgiveness and work towards healing and growth
• Build trust and commitment through rituals of connection you can count on

YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT CHANGING YOUR SPOUSE and I'm here to help you on the journey.

In person appointments only.